I don't know...........?

Ever heard the term "Don't speak ill of the dead"? There is no point in being rude and saying bad things about someone when they are already dead. At that point, all you would be doing is hurting the feelings of those who really did love them. Usually, people will be respectful of someone who recently died, even if they didn't necessarily deserve respect. If it makes you feel better, once the time for mourning has passed, I'm sure they will speak of the person in bad way again. People only feign respect for so long.